How Are You BEING While You Do What You’re Doing?

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Often in life we think about what we are DOING.

If you thought about your life right now, you most likely would think about all that you are DOING.

It probably would include your work, children, partner, parents, friends, activities, traveling.


But how often do you you think about how you are BEING.

How are you BEING while you do what you are doing?

Many people ask others “How are you?”

Now, “How are you?” seems like a harmless question at first glance. It seems caring, like you are interested, right? But when you ask the question to someone, first consider: FROM WHAT PLACE AM I ASKING THIS QUESTION? Are you knowing yourself as the Christ, and seeing the Christ in this other?

If so, most likely you would not ask “How are you?” because you would BE relating to them as the Christ you are and the Christ they are or you at least would notice straight away they are not aligned/connected with the Christ they are. You would SEE it.

You wouldn’t have to ask “How are you?” because you would be asking the ego how it is doing. You already know the answer to that one!

The starting point and practice for everything then is STILLNESS AND REMEMBERING: To pause and take a moment to be quiet and still (it only takes an instant) before you do or say anything so that you can identify completely with the Christ you are, therefore remembering your brother.

This gets very basic. Who is the “you” (In the question “How are you?”) that you are asking how it is? Typically, it’s the ego who speaks and the ego who answers.

So when someone answers the question “How are you?” they can only answer from the “I” point of view from which they are hanging out – usually, from fear.

Really take a moment to think about this. The question “How are you?” does nothing more than locate where a person thinks they are, at that time!

The answers range from ‘I’m okay. I’m tired. I’m sick. I’m good. I’m fine.”

Therefore, I mostly don’t ask the “How are you?” question anymore. Out of old habit, it slips out occasionally.

It’s like asking someone “Are you a boy or a girl?” – it’s a meaningless question because all I have to do is look at you and I can tell immediately how you are.

Your state of being (what you are being) is something that you are in control of.

All that is required is readiness and willingness to shift your perception and know the truth.

Often Ralph Waldo Emerson is quoted as saying: “Who you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say.”

I am not sure that Emerson actually wrote that specifically (even though it’s a good one!)

Here is what he did write:

“Let us not look east and west for materials of conversation, but rest in presence and unity. A just feeling will fast enough supply fuel for discourse, if speaking be more grateful than silence. When people come to see us, we foolishly prattle, lest we be inhospitable. But things said for conversation are chalk eggs. Don’t say things. What you are stands over you the while, and thunders so that I cannot hear what you say to the contrary. A lady of my acquaintance said, “I don’t care so much for what they say as I do for what makes them say it.”. -Ralph Waldo Emerson, from his essay “Letters and Social Aims” 1875

Also from Ralph Waldo Emerson:

“That which we are, we shall teach, not voluntarily, but involuntarily. Thoughts come into our minds by avenues which we never left open, and thoughts go out of our minds through avenues which we never voluntarily opened. Character teaches over our head.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson, from his essay “The Over-Soul”, 1841

I love that. We teach involuntarily, by our character of being.

A Course in Miracles puts it this way: YOU ARE TEACHING ALL THE TIME!

You are always “teaching” (by your demonstration and without words) by HOW YOU ARE BEING.

“To teach is to demonstrate. There are only two thought systems, and you demonstrate that you believe one or the other is true all the time. From your demonstration others learn, and so do you. The question is not whether you will teach, for in that there is no choice. The purpose of the course might be said to provide you with a means of choosing what you want to teach on the basis of what you want to learn. You cannot give to someone else, but only to yourself, and this you learn through teaching. Teaching is but a call to witnesses to attest to what you believe. It is a method of conversion. This is not done by words alone. Any situation must be to you a chance to teach others what you are, and what they are to you. No more than that, but also never less.” -A Course in Miracles

So, take some time today to think on this:



For years, I doubted myself. This was my way of being. Back then, I didn’t realize I could choose differently. I was habitually judging myself, criticizing myself and wishing life would change.

It didn’t occur to me that I could change! I thought life needed to change. I thought other people needed to change. I thought I needed a higher-paying job. I thought “if only people would start recognizing my God-given talents, then someone would give me an opportunity and THEN I could shine and be brilliant and be happy.”

Did you notice the words I just used: BE

I could be brilliant and I could be happy.

I could teach and demonstrate the Love of God.

I could BE the light in the darkness.

I could BE joy in the middle of a world of sorrow and despair.

But instead, I just didn’t know any better. I thought I was a victim. This was who I was being. I felt alone, alienated and disappointed. I was tired a lot. I was associating and being the darkness. I thought this was normal, because everyone around me was also being the darkness.

I didn’t know it then, but I know it now – I was only seeing in others a reflection of my own state of mind.

Once I realized what was occurring – that I was literally causing my world of my lack and limitation and sickness with my thoughts – I snapped out of it very quickly!

It’s a good wake-up call – to see you’re causing all your confusion and problems – and to make a decision to teach love.


It’s that simple.

You are the Presence of God. You are the Power of God. You are the Love of God. You are the Joy of God. You are the Peace of God. You are the Light of God.

You are not weak and small and powerless.

You can make this shift in an instant now.

In the 40-Day Program for Transformation, I offer an exercise which I offer here:

On a sheet of paper or index card, write your current way of being. If you do not know your current way of being now, then watch yourself for a day or a week. Watch your thoughts. Watch how you feel. Watch your emotions. Watch what you say to others. Notice how you are BEING. Pay attention to your “I am” – listen to yourself intently today and catch what you say when you say “I am …” Write it all down. Be ready to be shocked, because mostly we sleep-walk through life never taking time to pay attention to what we have been doing all along.

On second sheet of paper or index, write down your True Way of Being – the Self that God created. This is your true I AM. I am Love. I am Christ. I am a child of God. I am Spirit. It’s the way you are being in a state of joy and peace, when you know all is well and you know you are protected and loved and safe. It’s the Light you are.

Make a commitment to BE the Self you are. It’s the most natural thing in the world because how difficult can it be to BE what you Are in truth.

If this doesn’t work for you, you can get a copy of A Course in Miracles and begin it. Give yourself the gift of going through the transformation from fear to love. This is accomplished easily by making a commitment to do the workbook lessons which take one year (one lesson a day for 365 days), and reading the Text and Manual for Teachers.

Many people hope and pray for transformation and years go by and nothing much happens. But all you need to do is get a copy of A Course in Miracles and begin it. It contains everything you need to dismantle the thought system of fear so that you become aware of the light you are.

There is no need to suffer.

You are the light of the world.

I would love to hear from you! What’s your True I AM. Please leave a comment below!



Lisa Natoli is the Creator of The 40-Day Program for Transformation (it’s free!) and the Founder of The Healing Cure: An approach to healing using the light within you, your holiness, the mind-training of A Course in Miracles and a commitment to identify and BE your True Self.

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2 Comments on “How Are You BEING While You Do What You’re Doing?”

  1. I love this Lisa. This morning it came to me to do a treatment all for myself. To know that I am so deeply ensconced in GOD, in Source, in the Holy Spirit, in the mighty I AM that there can only be joy. To wrap myself in the Love that I AM and move through this day in trust and light. To literally LIGHTEN UP. To open my heart and extend love – the love that is already inside me. Ahhh – feels so good. Here’s to MOSTLY remembering this today… Your words here reminded me. I bet there will be myriad of things that will remind me. I set it up that way, after all. I love you sister

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